In order to get a couple reinforced and safe we must set ourselves targets and ask ourselves what will be our strategies to take advantage of certain moments. It is always going to require a certain type of behavior to difficult situations and that’s where we will have to live up to. When all goes well, it is very easy to love and staying together. When things are distorted, either by economic problems, illnesses or other things, our attitude will encourage the good course of our relationship or smash it. We have always said that the best way to maintain a relationship is with good communication. Love can end on the other hand is love, which can also be ended. When it happens it’s hard to know and we can’t be on the lookout because we are embittered and we will not enjoy our couple. Our function while we’re together is to try that things go well and to do this we must know how to communicate. When it comes to expressing your desires or your feelings, you can use an aggressive style or be a liability that does not communicate anything. Both forms will not serve to achieve our goal of lasting partner. It is best that you begin by learning how to do it well and this will be with an assertive style. Discussions calm and paused the people who know how to use this type of communication are ideal to engage in a discussion since they will always defend your rights, opinions or desires, however never will do harm to others, will take their views into account and will be considered with his way of thinking.
When we know how to use this type of communication, we will face a discussion with a form of leisurely and quiet expression, always listen to what you have to say the other, will give you the reason or understand him while we are not in accordance with what it says and, above all, we will defend our position; that Yes, without aggression or the threat to use at any time. Our partner will not be on the defensive and between the two we can reach agreements beneficial to both. You will get what you want in a quiet manner and your partner It will not feel deceived or defrauded, is used much troubleshooting and agreements since it is a form of communication active and resolute. Typical phrases that will use the assertive in a discussion will be: I understand, but I think can you may be right but I still think that what is it that you don’t like exactly? Perhaps you’re right, but I think that this way of communicating will be ideal in the majority of cases, either when dealing with us in a conflict, or to give our opinion, or to make a critique. And will be the basis for positive resolution of any conflict that has to do with human relations. At the beginning of the sentences shows interest in what the other thinks, even sometimes is given the right half, but throughout the conversation made clear always point of view that we are interested in doing this so that our opponent does not get on the defensive since what we do first is flatter him or agree with him. In a relationship will be the best alternative to solve the problems. Search for solutions will also have to learn to deal with problems that arise us in the best possible way and to do this we have clear some concepts. For example, when one of the members involved other decisions or problems that do not directly apply and when the decision does not affect him, will appear a pressure in the negative and unnecessary couple for relationship. We will have to know how to differentiate themselves and personal problems of the couple. It will be important to differentiate between a discussion of a search for solutions. They are different things. Recriminations, be launched in discussions the tone of voice will be increasingly higher and is will not solve the problem, since the alternatives will benefit each Member of the couple separately and will be on many occasions, even gradually speech alternatives such. However, in the troubleshooting options that benefit both members of the couple will be given or the least you can reach a mutual agreement.